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How to Date with Kindness
Okay, I’ve decided to get back to the on ramp of online dating even after advising you all not to.
One caveat. If you’re just looking for sex, this all might not apply and you can just swipe left on this article.
Stop stringing people along
Now we all have pages of messages from people in various states of disarray. Some have a few responses and fizzled, some don’t have any.
Yes I get it. Maybe there are too many to respond to. Maybe you want to see if your top choice works out. Maybe you’re a libra and can’t make a decision. Maybe you just decided to delete the app for a bit. And by maybe, I mean I have been all of these, including the libra.
But its kind of a dick move to just leave people hanging.
If you matched with someone IRL, you would finish the conversation and then both people would know where they stand. You are either not a fit or there’s a possibility, but there isn’t as much of a limbo or black hole.
Stop swiping without reading
Yes its fun to swipe left and right willy nilly while you’re hanging out with friends, on the toilet or driving down the interstate. Or hell, maybe you just give the phone to your kid and see what happens.